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Is oral sex a sin? | What’s your criterion?

Hi there. I’m going to talk about Christian’s oral sex today. Is Christian’s oral sex a sin?

I’ve said before that masturbation of Christians isn’t sinful. I’ll tell you what? In sexual matters, Christians are too strict.

Christians say the Bible determines good and evil. Rather than the Bible, they’re influenced by the education and discipline they got growing up.

Masturbation and oral sex are sins according to their a priori experience. What does the Bible say about them? There’s no guidance in the Bible for everything Christians go through.

It doesn’t tell you what shoes or clothes to wear when you leave the house. It doesn’t even say what major or job you should choose.

Same goes for marriage, the most significant decision of your life. Bible doesn’t give you exact instructions on how to get married.

There are only a few criteria in the Bible. However, the Old Testament has a law or Ten Commandments, so the criteria are clear. But the New Testament has vague criteria. What’s up with that? Take a look at Ezekiel 11: 18-19.

 I will give them an undivided heart and put a new spirit in them; I will remove from them their heart of stone and give them a heart of flesh. Then they will follow my decrees and be careful to keep my laws. They will be my people, and I will be their God.

NIV
A man and a woman are sitting on the floor.

The Bible doesn’t tell you everything you need to do

Do you get it? Old Testament law was carved into your soul in the New Testament era. What’s the point? With the grace of Jesus’ cross and resurrection, you have the Holy Spirit.

Modern Christians, however, have trouble making choices. How would the Bible respond? Here’s what Ephesians 4: 13-16 says.

until we all reach unity in the faith and in the knowledge of the Son of God and become mature, attaining to the whole measure of the fullness of Christ.  Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of people in their deceitful scheming. Instead, of speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. From him, the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.

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Yes, that’s right. You should be a Christian who grew up with the Bible and the Holy Spirit. Every Christian is a church. The church strengthens when you grow up and can fulfill God’s mission.

Can Christians masturbate? Can Christians have oral sex? Bible doesn’t say much about men and women having sex what the Bible says about couples’ sex. I think it’s 1 Peter 3:7.

 Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you] of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.

Here we should pay attention to the word ′′in an understanding way”′′. Matthew Henry interpreted this phrase as follows. (If you click this link and make a purchase, we earn a commission at no additional cost to you)

not according to lust, as brutes; nor according to passion, as the devil; but according to knowledge, as a wise and sober man, who knows the word of God and their own duty.

Mattew Henry’s Commentary on the Whole Bible
A man and a woman are sitting on the floor.

Facts more important than sin or not

I’ll say this here, and you’ll think. I guess Christians shouldn’t have oral sex.”

You don’t understand me if you listen to me and think like this.

I’ll give you a tip. Christian growth means your Reason becomes active. Don’t just read the Bible. Find out what gynecologists and counselors have to say about couples’ sex. That’s also God’s knowledge. (If you click this link and make a purchase, we earn a commission at no additional cost to you)

Discuss sex honestly with your spouse. Describe what you want and what you don’t want to your spouse.

Would your spouse like oral sex? Fill your spouse’s needs. Maybe that’s how you love your spouse. That’s why your spouse won’t be tested.

However, oral sex can cause infection. In women’s vaginas, there’s a virus called the human papillomavirus. Before you have oral sex, ask an expert how to be safe. It’s also a way to love your spouse.

Christian Hedonism

The Reverend John Piper called it Christian hedonism. The idea is that when we’re most satisfied with God, God is most honored, and man’s deepest, greatest happiness comes from pursuing him in joy.

Here’s what I want to say. It’s God’s creation and gift to you. You enjoy it with your spouse. 1 Corinthians 10:23-24 gives a standard on how possible it is.

 “All things are lawful,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful,” but not all things build up. Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbor. 

All sexual relationships are possible except for perverted or sadistic ones.

Growing as a Christian is about reducing questions. Knowledge guides him, and the Holy Spirit guides him. Please subscribe and like if my video was helpful.

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